Archive for May, 2010

Marlon in NC update #3

May 19, 2010

It’s been a while since I last updated the blog with news from Marlon’s world.  There are a number of reasons, but one of which is that I think God is trying to teach me patience.  This month’s virtue for our Children’s Ministry at Bethlehem Church has been PATIENCE.  Each Sunday in May our children (and adults) have been learning about patience.  It seems that I’ve got some lessons to learn in that area too.

I must confess that I have been getting a little impatient with the process of getting Marlon’s medical/hearing treatment.  I know that he is not their only patient, but I’m ready to run, but at this point we need to focus on walking.  I know that getting hearing aids and adjusting them takes time, but in reality we don’t have much time!  Marlon has a one-time entry visa to the U.S. and he’s scheduled to go back to Honduras with me on June 9th (3 weeks from today).

My biggest concern right now is getting him another visa so he can return to continue this journey.  So those of you who read this blog and believe in the power of prayer please pray that the U.S. government and the U.S. Embassy in Tegucigalpa, Honduras with give him an extended multiple entry visa.  Also pray that his mother will be agreeable to that as well.  Even though he has lived in an orphanage since he was 3 years old, his mother still has “parental” rights.

Back to the story of his hearing.  We are  now waiting on the hearing aid company to send the hearing aids.  They are trying to determine the best model for him and we also need to pick out things the color of his aids.  It’s my understanding that those decisions were going to be made today and that we would get the aids very soon.  The other thing is the nasal surgery and possible removal of his tonsils and adenoids.  June 3rd is the date scheduled for that procedure.  I’ll keep everyone posted on that as we get closer.

On the home front, he has adjusted to life in NC extremely well.  At times I wonder what’s going through is mind.  I don’t know what I’d be thinking if I were him.  He is a good kid and gets along well with our children.  There have been a few “sibling rivalries,” but for the most part he is doing much better than I ever expected.

He has become very close to me and likes to sit beside me when I’m working and sit on my belly if I’m laying on the couch.  He loves my affirmation and approval.  At times I feel like I’ve got  a new puppy!  He follows me everywhere and even hung his head out of the car window last week.  I would have been concerned if his tongue was hanging from his mouth!  I think he just wants a Daddy!

He loves playing video games, soccer, coloring and can even be seen brushing the hair of Mariah’s baby dolls. As you can see from the picture above that he’s like most kids . . . he can’t get enough silly bands!  He’s very competitive and loves to come in and tell me how many goals he scored against David in backyard soccer.  Yet on the other hand, he wants to cry and moan when David and Daniel beat him in video games.  We still have some things we’re working on with him, but in the end I’m glad God had our paths cross.  I know God has something special for this kid!

You gotta be old to remember the saying “a penny for your thoughts”.  It would probably be more like “a dollar for your thoughts” in today’s economy.  I know I’m revealing something of my age with that quote, but I try to “think young” (six children under age 12 will do that for you).

I posted this picture of a recent senior portrait session for several reasons.  One, because I like it.  Two, because my 11 year old son (and photography assistant) doesn’t like it.  Three, because when I first started working in a photography studio (over 20 years ago) my mentor’s rule was, “Never cut through flesh.”  Oh, how times have changed.   Four, to see what opinions I can generate from it.  So now it’s your turn.  Tell me what you think about the composition of this photo . . .

This week I had the privilege of shooting Camie, the Seniorzrock Photography senior rep for Gaston Christian School.  Camie has a great story that I may share here on the blog in the future.  Yet for now, here is a sneak peek from her senior rep session . . . join our Facebook fanpage here – http://www.facebook.com/seniorzrock

Today, Marlon went to his second Dr.’s appointment since coming to North Carolina on April 19th.  His first week here with us he saw Terry Jordan, an audiologist with Charlotte ENT.  Terry knew Marlon because in 2008 she visited his orphanage with her church in Charlotte.  She has been our connection to getting his hearing evaluated.  Terry’s initial evaluation was that he has “aidable” hearing (deafness that can be helped with hearing technologies).  On that initial visit she noticed that he was having some trouble breathing and thought he might have a deviated septum.  So, that brings us to today’s visit.

The visit to Charlotte ENT today was to meet with pediatric otolaryngologist Dr. David Parsons.  The outcome of this visit was confirmation that Marlon definitely has “aidable” hearing and they are going to proceed with getting him fitted for high tech hearing aids.  The next step in this process will be getting some molds of his ears made this weekend.  After that, he should get some hearing aids very soon.

The other outcome of today’s visit was the discovery that the boney cartilage inside of his nose (that’s how I’m interpreting it) has completely closed off his nasal passages.  We had noticed that he breathed very heavy at night while he was sleeping, but it wasn’t until his first Dr.’s appointment that Amy and Terry discovered that he only breathed through his mouth. Dr. Parsons advised that we watch him while he sleeps to determine if he is having sleep apnea issues.  I think I’m going to set up my video camera tonight and see if he stops breathing!  Dr. Parsons’ advice was that Marlon needs surgery to open his nasal passages and to remove his adenoids.  So it looks like he may have a little surgery before he goes back to Honduras in June.  I’ll keep you updated on his progress . . .

How can you pray for Marlon?  I’ll just make a list:

1. Pray that he gets the help he needs to learn to communicate.  Whether that be through hearing aids or learning sign language.

2. Pray that we can develop a plan of action for maximizing his chances of hearing, communicating and learning.

3. Pray for Marlon’s mother (Sindy) that she will have the wisdom to make the best choice for Marlon.  Yes, he lives in an orphanage, but his mother still has the rights of a mother.  She gave him and his two siblings to the orphanage when he was three years old (she was 18 at the time – now 25).

4. Pray for us to make the best decision about an upcoming surgery to repair his nasal passages.

5. Pray that God’s will would be accomplished in Marlon’s life and that his life and our actions would bring glory to God.